Gwyneth Paltrow of Goop fame sat down with Red Magazine (which is not into communism by the way) and was asked to comment on the criticisms mothers face when searching for balance in their lives.
Gwyneth dropped some really, real knowledge that went like this (brace yourselves because it’s on POINT):
“It makes me cross. I personally think that the work-life balance for a woman should be exactly what she feels is right for her. And nobody else can set her time schedule. And nobody else can tell her how many hours a week she needs to devote to this, that or the other … fuck what anybody else says.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. That’s what we’ve got to let go of. That idea of ‘Oh god, if I don’t show up to this concert, all the other mums are going to think I’m terrible.’ Well, so fucking what. When I’m with my kids, I give them everything I have. And when I’m not, I give whatever I’m doing everything I have. And that’s my work/life balance. I’ve made it work for me, but it doesn’t matter what my specific thing is.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. It matters what you think of yourself. And what your children think. So if anyone is going to ask my advice, I’d say, do what is right for you and don’t give a shit what anyone else thinks.”
Basically Gwyneth just called bullshit on “work/life balance.” I think I stand with 99-percent of the converted who could go to their pine box with accompanying soul choir singing, she didn’t balance shit.
I don’t know who came up with “balance” as this state of being that women are supposed to strive for in their lives, but it’s a myth. An epic one at that. Life isn’t supposed to be about balance, it’s more like controlled chaos. And what I mean is that you control what you can; and the rest of it is an utter shitshow of I’m about to lose my goddamn mind because there are 65 bazillion things coming at me and all I can manage is one foot in front of the other when I think I need to run but, ew, running and death by red cheeks. Unless you run all the time and feel an incessant need to share constantly on Facebook that YOU ARE RUNNING. YAY! FITBIT.
What Gwyneth is getting at is this: The mythical beast that is “balance” is more about selling inadequacy and competition to women so we stay in a perpetual state of anxiety and never quite enjoy our lives so we buy more crap to make us “happy.” It’s truly radical to tell women to think less and live more.
Think less about what someone else says, think less about what may happen, think less about impression, think less about stuff, think less about having and more about loving and living. Time is the most limited resource each one of us has, so why in the fuck are we wasting so much of it searching for something that doesn’t even exist?
Now, go have fun thinking less about everyone else and more about you and living. And loving.
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